Monday, December 31, 2012

Happy New Year Foxes!

No, this is NOT me!

Do you sometimes find it difficult to decide what to wear? I do. Those muffin-top-spawning-hip-huggers don’t feel right these days, but I’m not feeling the “Mom jeans” either. The mini skirt doesn’t cut it anymore, but the muu-muu is a no-no. So I just stand there staring, glassy-eyed, into my closet trying to find something that works.

Why not just wear what I’ve always worn? Well, I could. But I feel like I’ve changed. No, I’m not a completely different person. I’m still a free spirit…still a bit boho. But I want to look more polished. Dare I say it?…a little more “grown up.” But definitely not "granny."

Earlier this year, after watching a Chrysler ad called, “Whatever happened to style?” I lamented the demise of the kind of style I experienced growing up in the fifties.

Somewhere along the way, it seems like we lost our sense of style. Dress codes have become so relaxed and informal, almost to the point of non-existence. I actually saw a man yesterday walking into a church service wearing shorts, combat boots, and a puffer jacket.

A young friend of mine went to a casino for the first time over the Christmas holidays, and was shocked and disappointed by the way the people were dressed. I think she was expecting something more sophisticated…more glamorous…more “James Bond a la Casino Royale.” Of course, that was not the case…

2012, for me,  has been the year of “Project Style.” I’ve been slowly and deliberately “upgrading” my style…spending an extra ten minutes or so in the morning on finishing touches when I’m getting ready for work, or trying to dress attractively (but comfortably) on my days off.

I’ve been paying more attention to grooming, and taking better care of myself, with regular facials, manicures, pedicures, and massages. I’m eating healthier, and practicing my yoga routine almost every morning.

I’ve gone through my current wardrobe and pitched everything that either doesn’t fit, or that does not fit in with my lifestyle anymore, and purchased a few new pieces to update my look. (I will go into this process later, in future posts)

For the most part, I’ve been successful in my attempts to look more pulled together, but more importantly, I’ve noticed that the better I look, the better I feel.

So over the next few months, I’m going to share with you the results of my ongoing search for a transitional style that works for me, as well as many of the sources, tips, and great products that I’ve discovered along the way that might work for you.

What are your feelings about style? As always, I would love to share your ideas, tips, and recommendations.

Looking forward to a fabulous new year!



Sunday, December 30, 2012

Life Is A Journey...

I’m not so much a New Year’s resolution maker. I prefer to think of life as a journey…choosing paths as I go. It’s not like I don’t have a plan…it’s simply not a completely fleshed out, carved in stone plan.

Resolutions seem so concrete; I make them…and then I either succeed or I fail. And, while success is exhilarating…failure sucks.  A journey, on the other hand, lets me travel in directions that I find interesting, while allowing me the freedom to meander a bit. Obstacles become bumps in the road to go around, over, under, or through. Sure, they might occasionally be really big obstacles…sometimes even direction changers…but they’re never the end of the road.

And the journey continues…


Saturday, December 22, 2012

Do you remember?

Our hearts grow tender with childhood memories and love of kindred, and we are better 
throughout the year for having, in spirit, become a child again at Christmas-time.  

 ― Laura Ingalls Wilder

Thursday, December 20, 2012

2013 ~ The Year of the Fox! "Silver Foxes" Returns to the Blogsphere...

Hello again!

Of the four blogs that I‘ve started over the past few years, Silver Foxes is, hands down, the most widely followed. I wondered why a blog about mid-life is so popular, which prompted me to do a bit of research.

After a week or two of looking at web-sites, reading blogs, books, and magazine articles on the subject, I’ve come to the conclusion that, 1. there really isn’t that much written about how to grow up without growing old, and 2. middle-aged women are, for the most part, marginalized in our society. Surprised? I didn’t think so…

We’re encouraged to either dye our hair, botox our expression lines, and lift our faces and butts in a desperate attempt to cling to youth…or to simply fade comfortably and quietly into the background to make way for the pretty young things. The p.y.t.’s get most of the attention from the clothing designers and cosmetics manufacturers, even though it’s us baby-boomers who wield the real buying power. And let’s face it…we’re not really all that interested in trying to look twenty five, nor are we ready to retreat comfortably and quietly into our golden years!

Most articles about fashion and makeup for women over forty give us lame advice on how to look younger, or how to disguise or eliminate our “flaws.” We’re called “frumpy” and “dowdy.” We’re encouraged to dye our “lifeless” gray hair. Our attractiveness and sex appeal are questioned. It’s a real blow to our self-confidence, especially at a time in life when we should be feeling really good about ourselves. There’s just not a lot out there that presents a positive image for today’s middle-aged women.

Of course, there are fabulous exceptions, like Eliza Fayle’s, Kama Frankling’s, Donna Pekar’s, Geri Brin’s, and Anne Kreamer’s

On Facebook, there are some inspiring, supportive, and uplifting groups like Gray and Proud, and Not Always Perfect…But Always Happy.

Then, there’s Diana Lewis Jewell’s beauty bible for women of all ages, Going Gray, Looking Great, and Anne Kreamer’s book that chronicles her journey of middle-aging, Going Gray: What I Learned About Beauty, Sex, Work, Motherhood, Authenticity, and Everything Else That Really Matters.

Former makeup artist and fifty-plus super model, Cindy Joseph is a super role-model and creator of a pro-age line of cosmetics and body moisturizer. And More is a leading magazine “for women over forty who are interested in looking, feeling, and living their best.”

But compared to the plethora of material aimed at the twenty and thirty-somethings, women over forty are seriously short-changed. Over sixty? Forget about it…

What about careers and money? Most of what I’ve read about middle-aged women and careers assumes that we’ve worked hard, made it, and now we’re ready to retire and rest on our laurels. In terms of finances, the assumption seems to be that we’re going to retire with plenty of disposable cash, since we’ve been investing wisely and feeding money into our 401k for years, or we’re married to great guys who’ve made sure we’ll be well taken care of. And for many of us, that may well be the case.

But what if we want to keep working? How do we compete with people half our age?  What if we need to work? How do we get what we’re worth for the experience that we bring to the table? What if we can’t afford to retire? How do we maintain energy and enthusiasm? What if we want to start a whole new career? Where do we begin?

I’ve discovered that middle-aged women are often intimidated and/or overwhelmed when it comes to money. Many are completely unprepared financially for retirement. Why are so many otherwise savvy and intelligent women uncomfortable in their relationship with money? (In my opinion, Suze Orman’s book, Women and Money is a must-read for women of all ages, the earlier the better).

Gentlemen, I haven’t forgotten about you. But most of what I read and write about is from a female perspective because…well…I’m female. However, I think there will be plenty of things here that you’ll find informative as well. And we would love, love, love to hear from you! What’s it like for you guys? We want to know!

So, due to popular demand, I‘m bringing back Silver Foxes in 2013! Just like before, I’ll be writing about the ins and outs and ups and downs of growing up with style and chutzpah.

I am, by nature, curious. I’m a researcher…always ferreting out useful tips, ideas, and information that inspire and excite me, or that enhance my life.  And I’m always on the lookout for great cosmetics, skin and hair care products, clothing, accessories, designers, etc. that work for me now. I want to share my findings with all of you. I’m no expert, by any means, but I know what I like, and I know what works (and doesn’t work) for me. Perhaps it will work for you too!

And…this is very important! Any input from YOU is greatly appreciated. Everyone really enjoys the Silver Spotlight posts. We love getting to know each other! I invite you all to share your personal stories, inspirations, or information that you think might be of interest to your fellow Foxes.

Silver Foxes are smart, sexy, attractive, experienced, confident…and we’re just getting started!  We’ve been there, done that…and now we’re blazing new trails and making new rules! Get ready for the year of the Fox!

Merry Christmas! Feliz Navidad! Joyeux Noel! Happy Holidays!
And Happy New Year! See you in January!